When you read the phrase: "Honoring the Divine Within" what comes to your mind? There use to be a time when I created a line of herbal products just for this reason. In today's society, men and women have to manage several different titles at once: Mother father, business person, wife, husband and so on. One of the main things I have always noticed is how easily it is for a woman to put her needs on the back burner to nurture everyone else. I am not saying this is always the case, but the biggest majority of women do that.
When you are raised in a house-hold where the mother and the step father were always top priority above anyone else, what choice is there but to make a nest on the back burner? I personally have learned a lot throughout my childhood, not about things to do but about things NOT to ever do! Since I have been out on my own at a very young age, I can tell you, you learn a lot by hand on experiences and you take those experiences to mold how you want your own life to be. Along my path I have had to learn how to ~Honor the Divine Within~ and there are times I forget to do that and often reminded in different ways.
"Be yourself. There is something that you can do better than any other. Listen to the inward voice and bravely obey that" ~Unknown Author~
When you continuously put your own needs on hold or on the back burner, you are causing a lot of chaotic buildup on the inside. You are throwing yourself in an unbalance situation that can cause low self esteem, low self confidence and low self respect. Soon you begin to forget your Divine Within and your own identity.
I am not saying this is always the case, I am just speaking from own experiences in life and remembering several conversations I have had with many other women and men. Don't get me wrong, when I turned my life completely around after getting custody of my brother and sister, I have no regrets. I gladly put myself on the burner because I have always had this Fairy Tale image of what a mother should be. In my case; if I had the chance to change a few things I think I would~only because I actually lost a part of who I am (or was) when my brother and sister grew up and moved out on their own. I made the mistake and built my world around them. Finding myself again became a very strange, very hard yet wonderful journey on my path.
"Only as high as I reach can I grow, Only as far as I seek can I go, Only as deep as I look can I see, Only as much as I dream can I be"
~Karen Ravn~
During my healing process of finding my Divine Within, one of my journey's was finding my "child within". The child that remembers all of the fun things in life, the child that likes to treat herself, and the child that remembers all of the beautiful things in life~often however it is not a matter of remembering all of the wonderful things in life, often it is learning how to find them. The Child Within
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us"
~Ralph Waldo Emerson~
~Take a few moments each day just to be with you
~Relax in a warm tub or take a warm shower using your favorite scent
~Buy yourself a treat, it does not have to be expensive
~Take a few minutes out of the day and smell a flower or better yet, purchase a fresh flower and set it next to your bed (when I was single I did this every payday!)
~Put on your favorite song and DANCE
~Remind yourself that you love who you are and you are proud of all of your accomplishments because you are worth it!
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Beautiful beautiful words of honesty, truth and awakening. Very important find that person you are on the inside, and for each person it may be different, but for certain as well become many things to many people in our lives, at some point we all have to come back to who we are, who we were, and who we still hope to become..love this post, wonderful..insightful and thoughtful..
ReplyDeleteAw, thank you Dawn. I greatly appreciate your comments (( Hugs ))
DeleteMy mother(92)always used a little phrase when she needed to do something special for herself: She would say, "Time to take care of sister donkey!" and then she would explain that if you don't nurture your own mind and body and love them then you lose your own self respect. When you have your self respect, the light of confidence and life shines in your eyes, your voice and your actions and you can then respect and love others in the right way... You must be happy in your own skin, before you can truly share happiness with others. When you understand that son, then all who are around you will be warmed by your light and you will find your way through whatever darkness may come.
ReplyDeleteYou and my mom have discovered a "master" key within that opens any door you choose to enter! Beautiful post!
Your mother seems like a wise woman. I have heard similar sayings from the older women I use to sit with and talk too all of the time. The wisdom that comes from them is worth so much to me, always has. Thanks for stopping by.
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