name='keywords'/> WhiteOak's World: October 2015

My Favorite Saying...

"Life is filled with magick, if we allow our eyes to see it"

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Snail Mail What is that?

*Laughs* I purposely used this photo of a very old trunk I took a photo of years ago.  When we think of snail mail today, it sort of reminds us of something ancient-old something from the past that is almost forgotten.  At least it does to me... today's world of technology is taking over and soon it makes you wonder if there will even be a need for humans in the future. Okay, that may be carrying it a little too far, but you get my point.

I remember how excited I use to get to go to the mailbox and there would be a letter in there for me from a friend I had not heard from forever it seemed.  I would open the letter and read it a few different times to make sure I understood everything that was being said. Perhaps I read it so many times because I missed that friend terribly!! By reading the letter, it seemed (in some small way) really good to know I was not forgotten.

I also remember opening snail mail letters that would often be letters of apologies perhaps from a friend I had not heard from in a long time because we stopped communicating for some unknown reason that neither of us could really explain. 

But here is what I do know, no matter how much time goes by, I will always become excited to open a letter that came to me via snail mail.  I miss the personal feelings from letters, it always felt nice to know someone cared enough to take a few minutes out of their busy life to write a note.

Call me old fashion, call me ancient, it does not matter, but I will never give up on things in life that matter to me from years gone by.  Besides, as long as it is important to me, nothing else matters!!

So my rant for today is this:  Remember how it made you feel to open a letter from the mailbox? You can make someone feel that same joy; by just taking a few minutes and writing a few sentences to let them know you are doing ok and hanging in there. Trust me, it will bring a smile to your friend's face.  

What are your thoughts on snail mail?

Saturday, October 17, 2015


I have been thinking a lot lately about happiness.  Every day we look around and we see people smiling, couples admiring each other, friends just enjoying each other.  And yet there are those who are looking through a window and often wonder how can someone be so happy?

They say in life that it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. Yet, I often look and wonder; how all of the people that we see that are so happy would be during life's tragic moments. I wonder how they would create their happiness being alone.

Of course, it is easy to laugh when you have someone to laugh with you. Of course, you are happy when you are sitting across from a loved one, with the candle glowing and the wine sparkling right before you make a toast together celebrating life's joys.

We hear stories of how couples will have traditions during the holidays, both laughing, playing, singing and dancing while decorating a tree. And yet, they say it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. And the question remains, would they be so happy if alone?

So in a sense, when it comes to happiness isn't most of the people you see that are so happy, those who have someone with them?  I have heard so many people  say  'of course they are happy'. But are they underneath?

Of course, you can be happy being wrapped in someone's arms, kissing and holding on to each other as if nothing in world mattered, except that moment in time.  But I suppose, there are several different kinds of happiness also. There are quick fixes when you are watching a television show and you laugh your ass off... or times when you find just the right item and purchase it because it was exactly what you had been looking for.  Or when you go to the store and try on something that are a couple sizes smaller which means you are losing those few extra pounds.  All of these are quick fixes.. happy moments that will soon be forgotten. Moments that truly does not mark anything special in life.

I remember when I was a teenager, I would look through magazines and wonder to myself what makes that person so happy?  We can daydream and wonder if that person really is happy or are they trying to convince their self they are? I was doing some research the other day about a syndrome I heard of, and within the research I read this article that said: "Fake it until it becomes real." Honest to goodness it truly said that...

If you stop and think about it, that could possibly work... okay, they say if you repeatedly do something for three weeks in a row it becomes a habit.  So if for three weeks you pretend you are happy, does that mean in three weeks you will be happy??

I don't know if that will work or not... but here is what I do know. The biggest part of life and being happy is when you have someone to be happy with. NO, you can not rely on that person to make you happy but it is the small tiny things you do together that creates this massive bundle of joy which equal happiness.  Find a happiness like that being alone ... I dare you! If you can, 'high five' to you, wanna share your experience? Comments are open, if are you willing to share your view?