Saturday, October 17, 2015
I have been thinking a lot lately about happiness. Every day we look around and we see people smiling, couples admiring each other, friends just enjoying each other. And yet there are those who are looking through a window and often wonder how can someone be so happy?
They say in life that it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. Yet, I often look and wonder; how all of the people that we see that are so happy would be during life's tragic moments. I wonder how they would create their happiness being alone.
Of course, it is easy to laugh when you have someone to laugh with you. Of course, you are happy when you are sitting across from a loved one, with the candle glowing and the wine sparkling right before you make a toast together celebrating life's joys.
We hear stories of how couples will have traditions during the holidays, both laughing, playing, singing and dancing while decorating a tree. And yet, they say it is up to each of us to create our own happiness. And the question remains, would they be so happy if alone?
So in a sense, when it comes to happiness isn't most of the people you see that are so happy, those who have someone with them? I have heard so many people say 'of course they are happy'. But are they underneath?
Of course, you can be happy being wrapped in someone's arms, kissing and holding on to each other as if nothing in world mattered, except that moment in time. But I suppose, there are several different kinds of happiness also. There are quick fixes when you are watching a television show and you laugh your ass off... or times when you find just the right item and purchase it because it was exactly what you had been looking for. Or when you go to the store and try on something that are a couple sizes smaller which means you are losing those few extra pounds. All of these are quick fixes.. happy moments that will soon be forgotten. Moments that truly does not mark anything special in life.
I remember when I was a teenager, I would look through magazines and wonder to myself what makes that person so happy? We can daydream and wonder if that person really is happy or are they trying to convince their self they are? I was doing some research the other day about a syndrome I heard of, and within the research I read this article that said: "Fake it until it becomes real." Honest to goodness it truly said that...
If you stop and think about it, that could possibly work... okay, they say if you repeatedly do something for three weeks in a row it becomes a habit. So if for three weeks you pretend you are happy, does that mean in three weeks you will be happy??
I don't know if that will work or not... but here is what I do know. The biggest part of life and being happy is when you have someone to be happy with. NO, you can not rely on that person to make you happy but it is the small tiny things you do together that creates this massive bundle of joy which equal happiness. Find a happiness like that being alone ... I dare you! If you can, 'high five' to you, wanna share your experience? Comments are open, if are you willing to share your view?